Are you afraid you'll pass your stammer on to your child? If the
thought of reading your little one bedtime stories feels daunting then
don't suffer in silence, you can do something about it right now.
I have a friend who didn't want children because she stammered. She was terrified of passing her stammer on. When she spoke she blocked on words profusely, at her children's bedtime she changed the words of their stories, which must have been extremely difficult for her - how do you read The Gruffalo if you stammer on the letter 'g'?
Stammering is frustrating to say the least, it's a problem many people don't understand. A friend used to say "I'm here and you're safe with me so just say the word," while I had the all too familiar feeling of my throat muscles tightening, then no air coming out. But don't get all helpless on me. Don't give up (you wouldn't be reading this if have), listen to that little part of you that's frustrated or angry and that's the voice that's telling you to do something about your stammer.
Don't fight it anymore
You can stop labelling it as 'yours' for a start. Don't claim your stammer and wear it like a badge of disability. I was excused answering the phone when I was younger because I stammered - what? Not anymore! You are not your stammer. You make it bigger by highlighting the fact that you are afflicted by this evil stammering monster. So, make friends with it. If you fight it, you won't beat it and by making friends you're not giving in, you're empowering yourself.
What can we do about stammering
Bring your voice down and away from the throat area - up there is where you block and stammer so bring it down and deep and focus on the sound coming from the chest.
Every time you speak start deep and assertive, start as you mean to go, like you are a force in the speaking world. Over exaggerate when you're alone.
Most importantly, breathe. Stammerers don't breathe. Breath in deep and from your chest and out the same way (mentally of course) Learn how to costal breathe. Costal breathing is a wonderful technique to learn it gives your speech a solid foundation.
When you come to that feared word, the one you normally have trouble saying, don't give up use voluntary stammering. Slide through the previous, non-feared word and you'll be to say the feared word, e.g. if you want to say 'that's my orange' and you think you'll stammer on 'orange', slide on the 'th' sound of 'that's' - th--------at's my orange.
You can reduce your stammer significantly and doing it for your children could well be the boost you need. The methods above are the start of many techniques available to people that stammer. Believe me, you can take that first step towards being positive about your speech and keep going. Just put one foot in front of the other and you'll get there.
I have a friend who didn't want children because she stammered. She was terrified of passing her stammer on. When she spoke she blocked on words profusely, at her children's bedtime she changed the words of their stories, which must have been extremely difficult for her - how do you read The Gruffalo if you stammer on the letter 'g'?
Stammering is frustrating to say the least, it's a problem many people don't understand. A friend used to say "I'm here and you're safe with me so just say the word," while I had the all too familiar feeling of my throat muscles tightening, then no air coming out. But don't get all helpless on me. Don't give up (you wouldn't be reading this if have), listen to that little part of you that's frustrated or angry and that's the voice that's telling you to do something about your stammer.
Don't fight it anymore
You can stop labelling it as 'yours' for a start. Don't claim your stammer and wear it like a badge of disability. I was excused answering the phone when I was younger because I stammered - what? Not anymore! You are not your stammer. You make it bigger by highlighting the fact that you are afflicted by this evil stammering monster. So, make friends with it. If you fight it, you won't beat it and by making friends you're not giving in, you're empowering yourself.
What can we do about stammering
Bring your voice down and away from the throat area - up there is where you block and stammer so bring it down and deep and focus on the sound coming from the chest.
Every time you speak start deep and assertive, start as you mean to go, like you are a force in the speaking world. Over exaggerate when you're alone.
Most importantly, breathe. Stammerers don't breathe. Breath in deep and from your chest and out the same way (mentally of course) Learn how to costal breathe. Costal breathing is a wonderful technique to learn it gives your speech a solid foundation.
When you come to that feared word, the one you normally have trouble saying, don't give up use voluntary stammering. Slide through the previous, non-feared word and you'll be to say the feared word, e.g. if you want to say 'that's my orange' and you think you'll stammer on 'orange', slide on the 'th' sound of 'that's' - th--------at's my orange.
You can reduce your stammer significantly and doing it for your children could well be the boost you need. The methods above are the start of many techniques available to people that stammer. Believe me, you can take that first step towards being positive about your speech and keep going. Just put one foot in front of the other and you'll get there.
John Blosse is an AMT qualified Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT)
Master Practitioner and a Matrix Reimprinting and Emotrance (Emotional
Transformation) therapist. He is a recovering stammerer and an expert in
self-esteem and confidence issues. John runs a successful practice in
Brighton and Hove, UK and offers one to one sessions to clients from all
over the world via Skype and over the phone.
For more information please visit http://www.stammerless.com
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