Someone once said that if you accept your stammer completely then you won't stammer. How true these words are.
How many of us can say we are even close to accepting our stammer?
Do you use words like 'I have this stammer and it doesn't worry me', or 'I love going to parties and socialising'. I don't know about you but these phrases were never part of my vocabulary. I hated my stammer and pushed it away at every opportunity.
What we resist persists
The more I pushed the stammer away the bigger it got. So, I did something about it. I decided not to fight it anymore. By not fighting the stammer I was able to let go of some of the pressure I had found myself under all those years. I didn't spend time hiding the fact that I stammered, in fact, I told as many people I could find that I stammer and, more importantly, that I was doing something positive about it. People saw my determination to recover from my stammering infliction and offered nothing but praise and support.
The more I did something positive about my speech the closer I got to accepting it, but it wasn't easy. I stayed away from negative people, the ones that say 'it's hopeless' or 'I believe I'll always stammer and never amount to much'. I may never be fluent but most people who don't stammer aren't.
Look for the positive and it will find you
When you start to do something positive, even make a tiny step, you will find yourself in a better place. People love triers, so try. There are tools and techniques for people who stammer so look for the ones that suit you. You will find them, so start looking. Then practice getting better at the sport of speaking. Make it a life's work and create a beautiful tapestry. Make improving your speech exciting. Tell people about your little victories.
Start now!
How many of us can say we are even close to accepting our stammer?
Do you use words like 'I have this stammer and it doesn't worry me', or 'I love going to parties and socialising'. I don't know about you but these phrases were never part of my vocabulary. I hated my stammer and pushed it away at every opportunity.
What we resist persists
The more I pushed the stammer away the bigger it got. So, I did something about it. I decided not to fight it anymore. By not fighting the stammer I was able to let go of some of the pressure I had found myself under all those years. I didn't spend time hiding the fact that I stammered, in fact, I told as many people I could find that I stammer and, more importantly, that I was doing something positive about it. People saw my determination to recover from my stammering infliction and offered nothing but praise and support.
The more I did something positive about my speech the closer I got to accepting it, but it wasn't easy. I stayed away from negative people, the ones that say 'it's hopeless' or 'I believe I'll always stammer and never amount to much'. I may never be fluent but most people who don't stammer aren't.
Look for the positive and it will find you
When you start to do something positive, even make a tiny step, you will find yourself in a better place. People love triers, so try. There are tools and techniques for people who stammer so look for the ones that suit you. You will find them, so start looking. Then practice getting better at the sport of speaking. Make it a life's work and create a beautiful tapestry. Make improving your speech exciting. Tell people about your little victories.
Start now!
John Blosse is an AMT qualified Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT)
Master Practitioner and a Matrix Reimprinting and Emotrance (Emotional
Transformation) therapist. He is a recovering stammerer and an expert in
self-esteem and confidence issues. John runs a successful practice in
Brighton and Hove, UK and offers one to one sessions to clients from all
over the world via Skype and over the phone.
For more information please visit http://www.stammerless.com
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